Nothing wrong with sharing an interest, but the OP did say “like I do
By Eydís Guðmundsdóttir on June 1, 2022- Tweet
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” I like a lot of things more or less than other people do. With my ex-wife, she had never played any video games, but she got Tucson hookup sites really into Mario Kart DD, Final Fantasy Crystal Chronicles, Patapon, the Pixeles, Little Big Planet, and so on. We played tons of Soul Calibur together, too. And she is not at all a gamer.
But I presented the things as fun, and I wasn’t a huge dick about it and I wasn’t hypercompetitive with her, so she not only enjoyed playing games with me but sometimes played them on her own.
I think being up front with how serious gaming is in your life is a better strategy than seeking out a girlfriend who happens to play the same games for the same lengths of times as you.
One of the best parts of OKC is how well it tends to generally “match” people based on questions answered. Take a bit of time to answer questions, a good way to do this is to find people who it looks like you have something in common with and go through and answer the questions they, themselves, have answered. I know, generally, if someone is even worth having a conversation with based on basic “match percentage”. When I actually used the site, I tended to look for 80%+ matches, it takes a lot of the guess work out of the initial “should I message this person?” question.
Of course you need to actually read profiles and actually speak to people to get anywhere, but if you find the gaming-related questions and answer them based on their importance to you, you’ll see results shifting toward that demographic. In fact, you’re generally able to do as well of a job at presenting yourself based on the questions and your profile, that you’ll find plenty of people who compliment you and/or share your interests (not just gaming!).
If you think of it as a “full package” sort of approach, you’d be surprised at the results. There have been a few things that I’ve learned about myself based on my answers and preferences that I don’t think I would have ever been really able to pinpoint with out the algorithm.
It’s kind of an assumption that people on dating sites are looking to meet other single people that they get along with
I don’t get this. Are women worried if they profess an interest in games it will result in a mob of guys who fit some stereotypical gamer profile of being allergic to sunlight, living in their parents basement, overweight, dangerously obsessed with Felicia Day, and spending 18 hours a day playing World of Warcraft? People shouldn’t be afraid to say “I’m a gamer” for fear of being judged negatively or attracting the wrong attention.
I have some pretty heavy restrictions on my own dating life, but I have always been able to find matches that I feel confident in through the site
And yes, I WOULD like to date someone who has boobs and likes games. Because I like boobs and I like games. Is it so crazy to try an meet those women who prefer a co-op game with a good story line over watching a movie at home?
It’s kind of an assumption that people on dating sites are looking to meet other single people that they get along with
I don’t get this. Are women worried if they profess an interest in games it will result in a mob of guys who fit some stereotypical gamer profile of being allergic to sunlight, living in their parents basement, overweight, dangerously obsessed with Felicia Day, and spending 18 hours a day playing World of Warcraft? People shouldn’t be afraid to say “I’m a gamer” for fear of being judged negatively or attracting the wrong attention.
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